Disclaimer: In this blog, we use identity-first language (e.g. neurodivergent child) but acknowledge that others may favour person-first language (e.g. child who is neurodivergent). While we use identity-first language throughout this blog for consistency, we understand and acknowledge that many use a person-first approach to express their lived experience and identity.

If your neurodivergent child dislikes visiting the dentist, or is soon to have their first dentist appointment, there are different things you can do to try and ease the experience for them. Vhi Chief Dental Officer, Dr Gina Kilfeather, has eight ideas you can try out.  

The tactics I’m sharing have proven helpful for many neurodivergent children, but of course, you know your own child best, so tweak each as you like.

Here are eight tips to use, and adjust, as you see best for your child:

• Look for a neurodivergent-friendly dentist: Most dental teams have experience treating neurodivergent children, but some may have a particular interest or training, so have a look online or ask other parents if they know of any.
• Inform the dental practice when booking: Ahead of the appointment, inform the dental practice of your child’s specific needs, likes and dislikes. They can prepare the surgery by reducing noise levels, dimming lights or turning off any music.
• Ask ahead about sensory packs: Some practices supply sensory packs, which include things like cotton wool, a plastic dental mirror and a 'suction tip' (usually a straw). These can help your child to desensitise to the materials and items that the dental team will use. We all feel more comfortable in situations where we know what to expect, and a sensory pack can help your child with this.
• Book a suitable time: Check with the dental practice what times may be less busy to have an appointment. Consider an early morning slot when delays and waiting times are less likely.
• Comfort items: Bring something that usually occupies your child, so that any waiting time passes quicker for them. If your child would be comfortable doing so, they could wear earphones during their treatment and listen to something that comforts them.
• Use some storytelling: Ahead of the appointment, if possible, take or find photos of the practice, waiting room, surgery and dentist. Use these to create a story for your child or to show them what to expect on the day. If this isn’t possible, you could read or create a story about a child or character attending the dentist.
• Play dentist at home: Like reading a story, it might be beneficial for your child to hold toy dental instruments, so that they know that the tools will not hurt them. If your child is happy to do so, you could practice a pretend dental exam at home.
• Maintaining a dental routine:
  • You can help to minimise the need for dental treatment by making sure your child brushes their teeth twice a day, for two minutes at a time. Purchasing sand timers or digital timers can be helpful for some children.
  • You could try a three-sided toothbrush to help with brushing if you thought that could be useful for your child. Your child might prefer the feel of extra-soft toothbrushes, and a larger or small brush head.
  • You could also test a flavour-free fluoridated toothpaste if your child doesn’t do well with the taste of some toothpastes. There are low-foam toothpastes available too.

Hopefully, these tips will help you and your child to have a more comfortable experience when visiting the dentist. A good dental team will work with you to ensure your child is at ease as much as possible.

If your child still has their milk teeth, have a look at my blog, ‘ How to care for your child’s baby teeth’ for oral health tips.

This content is for information purposes only and is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek advice from your GP or an appropriate medical professional if you have concerns about your health, or before commencing a new healthcare regime. If you believe that you are experiencing a medical emergency call 999 / 112 or seek emergency assistance immediately.